“ Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you’re supposed to. Stay home on New Year’s Eve if that’s what makes you happy. Skip the committee meeting. Cross the street to avoid making aimless chitchat with random acquaintances. Read. Cook. Run. Write a story.

“ Be with someone who won’t stay mad at you, who can’t stand not talking to you, and who’s afraid of losing you.